Polygamy

A.G. Mojtabai's essay, entitled Polygamy, is essentially a documentation of a first meeting and the prejudices brought to this meeting by an individual who didn't understand someone else's customs. Mojtabai felt uncomfortable and disturbed by the fact that she had two mother's in law, which I would figure hardly too difficult of a fact to accept. It seems to me that a marriage would be happier with all the women involved aware of each others presence and even having a say in who the others would be. Her suggestion that mut'a is a superior form of polygamy surprised me. Seems even less legitimate and more likely to cause unhappiness in such relationships. Polygamy only becomes a problem when an individual involved somehow causes enough of a fuss to make problems out of the excess of people. A multiple person marriage would allow extra levels of intimacy between multiple involved parties, much less of a need be secretive.